About life ….
inspired by small talks that i had with two really nice guys about life.
right now i’m currently not doing anything at all. i finished my assignment earlier than expected and i’m waiting for a new project to start that will require my undivided attention so i want to spend my free time now to actually laze around.
i was making a lot of thinking lately. being far from home also has it’s advantage which is you can actually analyze your life as if you are a third party looking at it objectively. it has not been easy for me to be away from home, this is the first time in my life that i’ve been away this long and there are ups and downs but i want to focus on the ups or else i don’t think i will ever survive here.
i’m 27 and looking back i think i’ve made good decisions in life in terms of career and life itself. there were a few roadblocks but those made me appreciate life a little more. i consider myself blessed for the strong values and character instilled to me by parents and siblings and also to meet so many great people that also helped to shape my personality. the reason why i’m talking like this is because during the events of get together and dinners i had the chance to talk to two people that i really admire for knowing what they want and knowing when they want it. it’s quite special for me because people at my age will usually have a hard time to pinpoint what they want from life.
person#1 - He is married with one kid. At age 26 he got married to a lovely girl who was 24 at that time. the minute he saw her he know she was the one and at 3 months time they got married. it’s a very usual scenario from the country where they came from but they are special for me because they actually fell in love. he was ready and she was ready for the next stage of the relationship and i think that’s what matters. right now they are starting to have a lovely family.
what i learned from this family - i love my work but i’m not in love with it. yes i will give everything and anything to make my career boom as much as possible and i really do enjoy my work but if time comes that i need to give up this because of somebody i love then i know i will be very happy to do it when the time is right.
this guy also questioned me why do you fear marriage so much or what will be the difference after getting married? he made me rethink things… Yes there’s actually no difference at all but perhaps it wasn’t just time for me yet.
person#2 - he is single with a girlfriend waiting back home. at age 27 he met a girl in a very unusual scenario. faith lead them to each other and faith brought them closer as well. now they are physically separated but no distance can separate them. they’ve started really talking sometime in april 2006 and after a few months he is actually going to marry her in march of 2007, that was a wow for me but just like the first person he found his perfect match and why wait if you can actually start your forever together already.
this guy questioned my love to the special person in my life. i totally disagree. not being ready to take another step in the relationship is not because you don’t love the person it’s just that it’s not yet time. as long as both of you understand that then i don’t think there will be a problem but during our conversation he made a very valid point. i have this friend they’ve been together for so many years and as she pops the question about marriage he will actually either change the topic or give alibis. and person#2 said he doesn’t love her….. i didn’t tell him they actually broke up after a few months.
for my girl friends. most of us are waiting for that perfect day when somebody will actually propose to us to be part of a lifetime with a great guy. don’t hurry… he will come and do not in any way hurry up the process because not all guys are stupid some of them actually knows what they want and when they found it there’s really no stopping them. i know i’ve found mine a long time ago and i know you will find your perfect match as well.
have a great day…
